My boyfriend and I haven't yet had sex, only manual and oral. I'm still a virgin, and the problem is he says I'm stupidly tight, like, it's a struggle to even use two fingers. Sex could be an issue for us because he's slightly above average in length and girth. So I'm asking do you have any suggestions on how to make it more comfortable, or how to even get it up, haha? It's looking like a real physical impossibility. Thanks.

Are you a virgin?

Some women have a super painful first time, others don't have any pain at all...

Remember... There is no such thing as "Too Big" because that vaginal opening is DESIGNED to have a baby come out of it...

So unless your boyfriend, literally, has a paint can between his legs, he will be able to enter.

If you are worried about the pain, you should try to be on top your first time with him so you can control the penetration and stop if you hurt too much.

The first thing you need to do is GO TO WALGREENS (Or the grocery store or target or walmart, etc.) and buy a bottle of silicone based lube before you try to actually have sex. Oh, and condoms obviously.

The silicon based stuff can be a little more expensive than the water based lube but it is more like your natural fluids and will make your first time less painful because it doesn't "Dry Out" as quickly as the water based stuff.

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You can't have too much lube the first time you try to have sex.

Just remember, though, if you are not ready, you are not ready...

My advice is ONLY for if you are 1000% sure this is what you want...

Not a single woman on earth ever complains that they "Waited too long" to lose their virginity, but most of them are sorry they gave it up so early.

One other question, were you molested as a child?

If you are a trauma survivor, there is a condition called Vaginizmiss (I'm looking up the correct spelling now) in which trauma survivors have generalized pelvic pain and an inability for a male to penetrate due to the tenseness and contractions of the vagina.

So if you are a trauma survivor, you need to keep your past in mind when attempting sexual activities.

Vaginismus
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
Vaginismus, sometimes anglicized vaginism, is the German name for a condition which affects a woman's ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration, including sexual intercourse, insertion of tampons, and the penetration involved in gynecological examinations. This is the result of a conditioned reflex of the pubococcygeus muscle, which is sometimes referred to as the "PC muscle". The reflex causes the muscles in the vagina to tense suddenly, which makes any kind of vaginal penetration—including sexual intercourse—painful or impossible.

A vaginismic woman does not consciously control the spasm. The vaginismic reflex can be compared to the response of the eye shutting when an object comes towards it. The severity of vaginismus and the pain during penetration, including sexual penetration, varies from woman to woman.

I had a similar problem with my first girlfriend. Just take it slow. Get some lube, like ky, which should help quite a bit. It's awesome that you are tight, but it will just take more time for him to get in at first. Once he's in your pussy should accommodate his size pretty well.

Good luck!

My friend told me she had the same problem with her boyfriend! The problem was that she was too tense and WORRIED that it wouldnt fit. Just relax and lube up :) Take it slow and make sure you have oral sex first! Hope i helped :)

Friends

it's only going to hurt if he doesn't know how to do it. if you are not wet enough it will hurt. it's not all on you HE has a lot to do with it too. use lube

relax your muscles and use plenty of lube. since it,s your first time you might be afraid and your muscles might be tightening up.

You aren't too tight, you are too tense. A sure sign that you are not ready.

The suggestion is - wait until marriage

dildo ur self until you stretch?

Try a lube like cooking oil or something it always works.

Obviously your going to be tight if your a virgin, Even if he is just using fingers. Tell him to rub his wanker with Ky Jelly and your hole too and let her rip! That's why God invented lube.

lube it up and shove it in

Is anyone else becoming aroused?

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